Tips from supernyani

Many parents are often faced with various problems related to child rearing. Child psychologist Natalya Barlozhetskaya, which has been leading a popular program «Supernyanya» channel REN-TV, answers frequently asked questions parents.
Natalia Barlozhetskaya
Child psychologist

I hardly bear travel in a car with children, but every day have to do it, otvozhu them to school, then on to sports. This is the time for turning me into penal servitude: they are not sitting, wearing his safety belt, fight, talk and argue, I chew on your ear, distracting questions ... What can I do in this situation?

You are not alone, this is a normal problem for the modern mom. But this problem can be very dangerous. Who knows how many accidents occurred because of the fights of children in the car and from the fact that the parents tried to reassure them, while at the same time machine. Children must learn that the car - this is not a place where you can move freely, and that their behavior largely depends the security of driving a car. Here are a few rules that will help you in this situation:

Each child must be in the car as their permanent place. Depending on the age, the car must be equipped with child seat or a special seat. There can be no question that the child in the car was not fastened. Of course, taught children to use seat belts, So do not forget yourself.

Do not start the movement, if not all sat down and did not pristegnulis. Be firm with the children, do not let them manage you, do not surrender to their demands. "Well, Mom, I have great ..." - not a reason to allow the child to violate the security rules.

Talk to the children before landing in the car. Explain that you consider dangerous to the machine with the noise and romp in the cabin, warning that in this case, you come to the side and will wait until they calm down. Then, if the children are beginning to mess around and make noise, not to mention a word, stop the car. Do this as many times as necessary to ensure that children understand that you really do not change their decision.

If you have any problems with the behavior in the car, plan more time to reach the destination. Once the children to remove the seat belts, park and wait until they calm down and then they do not nadenut. Very well done it a couple times on the way to the cinema and late in the session as a result of such delays. Children quickly realize that themselves are punished.

Going in the long trip, take along toys and books. Can the whole family to listen to audio cassettes with recordings of children's fairy tales or stories. In a long trip make frequent stops, so that children are able to flex the.
I have a boy and a girl 2 and 6 years. They get along well, never had any jealousy. Now they share the one room. At what age should be "resettled" them in order to avoid friction. I would like to know in advance because of the need to change a flat. At the cottage, they sleep in one big bed. It is dangerous whether it is for their proper sex education?

The issue of sex education raznopolyh children in cramped living conditions of our apartment is very serious. If you can afford to buy an apartment, in which each child could have their own room - it needs to be done now. It is connected not only with puberty, but with substantial differences in sleep mode and the rest children.

Eldest child 7 years old soon, he will go to school, then, will require a separate table, and some insulation from the youngest to make the lessons without interference.

If you are unable to resettle the children, try to allocate to each its own zone in the common room, separate these zones screen or curtain, obkleyte different wallpapers.

Naturally, every child should have their own bed! Do not let that raznopolye children older than 3 years of sleeping in one bed. The same applies to the receiving bath. It was at the age of 3 years, babies first begin to study their sexual organs, and thought about the difference between boys and girls, there is nothing wrong, but is unlikely to be artificially stimulate this interest.
I have two children, and I recently married a woman with a child. Our children do not get along very well, and the stepson just does not make me. This greatly complicates the relationship between me and my wife. We do not know what to do.

The addiction to each other - this is a long process. Children are accustomed to a certain role in the original family and the pain take its new position. The time when it is filled with love and attention, heals all wounds.

Give time to the process of developing. Be prepared to show anger, jealousy and rivalry, but be aware that this will not last forever, if you type in patience.

Allow children to express their feelings. Understand and evaluate their emotions, rather than say that they should not experience such feelings.

Do not be afraid to show warm feelings towards each other in the presence of children, let them see how happy their dad or mom with a new spouse, but do not overdo in the matter, do not allow children to become witnesses of your intimate life, everything has a limit.

Start a joint excursions, walks, holidays. Sign as many new traditions for a new family. Scroll to each child their own space, and define clear responsibilities within the family.

Exactly treat every child in the new family, not to provide their own children. They need to know that they are loved and appreciated, but that they should not manipulate their parents, adjusting those against each other.

Respect love of children to their present blood parent. Do not talk bad about him, not forced to choose. At first it is the parent's blood would have to call to order for their children, if they resist stepfather or stepmother.

Stepmother and stepfather, children should use soft methods of educational effects, be sure to discuss these practices with her husband.
My daughter 7 years old. While watching TV, regardless of what looks, her fingers are constantly in the mouth. Nails otgryzaet to root. Comments made useless, the beauty of well-groomed hands are also told, painted fingernails colorless varnish, too, no sense. I do not know what to do.

The habit gnaw nails are very common among both children and adults. Approximately 1 / 3 of children aged 7 to 10 years, and exactly half of adolescents gryzut nails. It is generally believed that the cause of this bad habit - it is stress. Most children gryzut nails, pull hair, eyelashes, or bite the lips in an attempt to remove the nervous tension. This could hide any fears, anxieties. Maybe the child is suffering from a lack of parental attention. This stress in children can cause both negative and positive changes in their lives. Any event causing a child in the excited state, may cause harmful habits. In your case the TV show was exciting, but risk factors may be moving, changing place of study, a noisy company, change of intensive activities, etc.